DEALING WITH OTHERS.

In all application of magnetism to persons, you are urged to remember that your very first goal, always and preeminently, is an agreeable feeling within their minds. You should never try to induce a person to act your way until you have thoroughly established in him a good feeling toward yourself. This is the prime initial step. When such a condition has been secured, you are then ready for the magnetic assault and then only. When you are dealing with other people, endeavoring magnetically to win them to your wish, you should summon the general magnetic feeling within yourself, will them to do as you desire, and at the same time think of them as already consenting and acting. Your inner condition should be perfectly calm, buoyant, hopeful, whatever the external means employed, your mind should be concentrated upon the thing desired, and its accomplishment should be thought of as now secured. The response of the person may be delayed, but this should not discourage you, for some minds do not take suggestions (those of your unspoken will are referred to) quickly, and they do not act instantly upon their own thought. It is invariably best to induce people to believe that they are acting on their personal impulse or judgment; they should be made to feel perfectly free, not at all coerced, and that they are doing their own will rather than yours simply because they wish so to do. We may summarize all these suggestions in the words of a distinguished scientific writer: "Life is not a bully who swaggers out into the open universe, upsetting the laws of energy in all directions, but rather a consummate strategist, who, sitting in his secret chamber over his wires, directs the movements of a great army." This is a good description of magnetism. The success-magnetism assumption: We are now ready for the great assumption-principle of magnetism in applied life. Think of every goal as already reached, of every undertaking as already achieved. The only thing better than good advertising, is getting it for a great price! Enjoy a 25 percent discount when you sign up for dailyplanet.biz now!

Slow down learn things one step at a time.

Today’s worker's are under more stress than ever before. This is the age of information, one is expected to know more for less money than at anytime in history. Additionally, doctors are seeing more stress-related illnesses than ever before, including anxiety, depression, insomnia, adult ADHD, backache, and migraines. In fact, primary care physicians report that between 70% and 90% of patient office visits are precipitated by underlying emotional stress. No one would disagree that having back and neck pain causes stress, but what about the other way around? Can stress be the primary cause of your back pain?

Learn more: How Does Stress Cause Back Pain? The patient becomes unnecessarily limited in many activities of daily living, as well as leisure activities This decrease in activities is due to the patient's fear of the pain and injury, this fear and stress then cause more pain. This fear may be made worse by admonitions from doctors (and/or family and friends) to “take it easy” due to some structural diagnosis (which may actually have nothing to do with the back pain) The limitations in movement and activity lead to physical de-conditioning and muscle weakening, which in turn leads to more back pain Of course, this cycle results in more pain, more fear, and more physical de-conditioning along with other reactions such as social isolation, depression and anxiety.

1. Meditate A few minutes of practice per day can help ease anxiety. It's simple. Sit up straight with both feet on the floor. Close your eyes. Focus your attention on reciting -- out loud or silently -- a positive mantra such as “I feel at peace” or “I love myself.” Place one hand on your belly to sync the mantra with your breaths. Let any distracting thoughts float by like clouds. 2. Breathe Deeply Take a 5-minute break and focus on your breathing. Sit up straight, eyes closed, with a hand on your belly. Slowly inhale through your nose, feeling the breath start in your abdomen and work its way to the top of your head. Reverse the process as you exhale through your mouth. “Deep breathing counters the effects of stress by slowing the heart rate and lowering blood pressure,” psychologist Judith Tutin, PhD, says. She's a certified life coach in Rome, GA. 3. Be Present Slow down. “Take 5 minutes and focus on only one behavior with awareness,” Tutin says. Notice how the air feels on your face when you’re walking and how your feet feel hitting the ground. Enjoy the texture and taste of each bite of food. When you spend time in the moment and focus on your senses, you should feel less tense. 4. Reach Out Your social network is one of your best tools for handling stress. Talk to others -- preferably face to face, or at least on the phone. Share what's going on. You can get a fresh perspective while keeping your connection strong. One of the first things I need to be mindful about is completing my new website design course. So I have a website Join dailyplanet.biz right now and not only will you enjoy a blog chockfull of industry information, you’ll receive a 25 percent discount on advertising!

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1. 
   I have been afraid of strangers ever since I can remember.

•   I know both my Mother and my father's mother who were some of my primary caregivers, were afraid of people. Now thinking back my Dad who I really never knew very well, even though when I was little he took me every where he went. I still really never knew him. Perhaps that is because he did not trust people and that even a child could see. So perhaps he was afraid of people too.  This particular fear has made my life a way I never thought it would be.
• Admit exactly where you are now. Make a plan to go some where else if you are uncomfortable with your reality. 
• Example, if you have been not really looking at yourself because you know you have gained weight, you just feel fat and ugly. But you are not fat or ugly, you are just preconceive them and your self that way.  I had a lot of things happen that hurt me a lot when I was a very young child and I was betrayed by some of the closest people in my life. I am grateful I had all those people in my childhood to love and care for me. I am grateful they taught me I could change and be different and how to find the answers.  Here I am at this age, going back and solving problems from my childhood so I don't have to continue hurting, being afraid, and can become more vital and alive. 

But I am very grateful that I still have time in this life time to solve some of these things and share what I learn each day.  I am so grateful that I can go back visit it and get out. I don't get stuck there. I simply draw forth the information and bring it back. Then I can use today's tools on solving the problem. 

1. So what am I going to do to solve this problem with being afraid of people?

•  I am going to go to one get together now over the summer with people from Linkedin.
• I am going to speak and smile at everyone I meet each day. I am going out of my way to say something nice to each person that crosses my path.
• When I am uncomfortable with how we are getting on I will bring it up with the person. Tell them about my self challenge.
• I am willing to give the situation/relationship one half hour of my time to stretch my boundaries,  this half hour will start when I start feeling anxious, and not end until I have myself in a place where I can make myself more comfortable again.
• I will do anything it takes to calm myself, like deep breathing:
•  purse my lips and breathe through them. 
• Get away to the bathroom even, 
• shut your eyes and visualize you laughing and talking to these people and how much fun you are having. Go back to the table and practice.
• Do silent affirmations about how much fun you are having, how much you like these people, how grateful you are to have friends, how grateful you are to be able to go out on the town, how grateful you are at being relaxed and feeling confident. 

Continue to practice. Write out in detail how you will feel when you have made friends and are comfortable with people. How many people do you want to be friends with?  How often do you want to have people in your week socially? Remember be as specific as possible in your writing. Read through your goal several times a day. Please leave a message in the box below to let me know what happened when you tried to expand your intimacy?
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