The Light Behind the Man

I saw him, looked deeply into his eyes. Saw the pain and frustration that makes him tell his lies. I saw the woman who held his heart in the palm of her hands, Yet let it fall down and shatter for she did not understand. She had no clue of the light...

Know Me Today

Lately I have been in spiritual warfare with myself. The spiritual side of me wants to forgive, forget, let go, walk away from, and pray for those who wrong or hurt me; but then this worldly side of me wants me to find away to make them all suffer. So...

Have One Week, to Learn to Relax? You have seven days to learn to work a Stress management Program.

They say there's more than one way to get something done. The same goes when you start tearing your hair out with all the frustration, grief, anxiety, and stress. It's a state of mental conditioning that is like taking that a bitter pill, causing you to lose your sense of self, and worse your sanity. Just thinking about it can drive anyone off the edge.

And they say that the proactive ones are already living off the edge. As one stressed-out person to another, I know how it feels, and, believe me, there are many variants when it comes to stress. Coping with life, and carrying the problems that may or may not belong to you can scratch away the little joy and happiness that you have. . They say that stress is all in the mind, well, what's bugging you anyway? One way to get rid of some of this stress is to get outside and exercise. Anything you enjoy, like swimming, hiking meditation.

There are several ways to manage stress, and eventually remove it out of your life for good. So I'll try to divide it into a seven-day course for you and I promise it's not going to be too taxing on the body, as well as on the mind. 1. Acknowledge stress is good Make stress your friend! Based on the body's natural "fight or flight" response, that burst of energy will enhance your performance at the right moment. I've yet to see a top sportsman totally relaxed before a big competition. Use stress wisely to push yourself that little bit harder when it counts most. Stress is just energy and you can decide how to use it. 2. Avoid stress sneezers Stressed people sneeze stress germs indiscriminately and before you know it, you are infected too! Protect yourself by recognizing stress in others and limiting your contact with them. Or if you've got the inclination, play stress doctor and teach them how to better manage themselves. 3. Stick with the winners When people around are losing their head, who keeps calm? What are they doing differently? What is their attitude? What language do they use? Are they trained and experienced? Figure it out from afar or sit them down for a chat. Learn from the best stress managers and copy what they do.

4. Breath filling you with calm. Breath in calmness and breath out stress. This is something I've learned from a gym instructor: You can trick your body into relaxing by using heavy breathing. Breathe in slowly for a count of 7 then breathe out for a count of 11. Repeat the 7-11 breathing until your heart rate slows down, your sweaty palms dry off and things start to feel more normal. Do pursed lip breathing. Learn yoga it can be incredibly relaxing. 5. Give worry the red light Most of the things we worry about never happen, so why waste all that energy worrying needlessly? Give stress and what can you do to prevent it?

6. Know your trigger points and hot spots Presentations, interviews, meetings, giving difficult feedback, tight deadlines…. My heart rate is cranking up just writing these down!Make your own list of stress trigger points or hot spots. Be specific. Is it only presentations to a certain audience that get you worked up? Does one project cause more stress than another? Did you drink too much coffee? Knowing what causes you stress is powerful information, as you can take action to make it less stressful. Do you need to learn some new skills? Do you need extra resources? Do you need to switch to decaf? write in your journal.

7. Lack of sleep, poor diet and no exercise wreaks havoc on our body and mind. Kind of obvious, but worth mentioning as it's often ignored as a stress management technique. Get outside, do things you like, go to a funny movie, read a funny book, go see that standup comedian you have been wanting to see.

Get a pet they are known to be great stress relievers. So having stress can be a total drag, but that should not hinder us to find the inner peace of mind that we have wanted for a long time. In any case, one could always go to the Bahamas and bask under the summer sun.

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The Wrap Jordan Chariton The Wrap December 3, 2015 San Bernardino Shooter Traveled to Saudi Arabia Before RampageView photos San Bernardino Shooter Traveled to Saudi Arabia Before Rampage One of the shooters in the San Bernardino rampage that killed 14 people traveled to Saudi Arabia for nearly a month this spring and returned with a wife, who ultimately became his co-attacker. Co-workers of Syed Farook at the San Bernardino County public health department told the Los Angeles Times that the U.S. citizen met Tashfeen Malik online and returned with her after a visit abroad earlier this year. The couple had a baby and seemed to be living the “American dream,” said Patrick Baccari, who shared a cubicle with Farook. Also Read: San Bernardino Shooting: Police ID Male and Female Suspects Baccari said Farook never struck up a conversation; another co-worker, Griselda Reisinger, said Farook was a devout Muslim but didn’t seem suspicious. “He never struck me as a fanatic, he never struck me as suspicious,” she told the Times. Also Read: NY Daily News San Bernardino Shooting Cover Sparks Passionate Online Debate Co-workers said there had been a baby shower for Malik and Farook at the County’s Public Health Department nearly a month before the two went on a shooting rampage at the Inland Regional Center during a holiday party for the San Bernardino County public health department. Fill out the form below and join our site, then get 20% off on everything on the site, get invited to all the members-only sales

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Anger and Forgiveness - Dr Charles Stanley

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You Can Not Hide Or Runaway From Your Fears And Anxieties, Getting to Know me and facing all of me

“Facing your fears robs them of their power” ~ Mark Burnett 

I never knew a human that did not have fears so feel like you are one of the crowd if you have fears. Lately I had to face a lot of fears.  Do you know what, once exposed they lost their power. How did they get exposed.  Well, for many years I was a counselor and I told the women in my groups to look for their fears and look at their origins.  Well, just lately I had several occasions, where I felt really angry because people were getting into my business. I got really angry and even cut off some of my loved ones for getting into my business.  Now my family had this saying, "To tell people your business is like taking your pants down in church."  I never even thought about or the connection. But whenever I had to tell people personal stuff I would become fearful and anxious. I know why the family did not want our business on the street, but that is irrelevant.  I am just very grateful that I now can see them and know they are there, but to be able to make a decision that the fears do not have to rule my life and keep me from my dreams.

 

Sooner or later, you will have to face your fears and anxieties regardless of how difficult they may be.  Through these experiences, there is one thing that I learned. You can’t hide or runaway from your fears. Taking drugs, drinking, or other methods will not take away your problems and fears.  Since alcohol is a depressant it intensifies negative thinking and causes more fear. So what can I do?So what do you do to make your problems and fears go away? Well, since you can’t runaway from them, then the best solution is to tackle your fears head on no matter how strong they may be. The key is to be smart in how you try to manage these fears. 

1. Write down your fears.  You know what they are so write them down and prioritize them.  Which fears get in your way of doing what you dream and the life you want.

1. Start a fear journal. You can buy a journal some are beautiful. I usually do best with a spiral notebook and then I can have separate journals for separate goals. 

1. Think it through and realize the difference between rationale and irrational fear. If you met a wolf in the street and she had cubs. She snarls and begins to charge you. The fear you feel is normal. Your body is getting itself ready to take itself into flight or fight mode.
2. See a mental health professional, it does not mean your crazy, hundreds of people who live right here in America are afraid of bugs, snakes, anything they don't understand, you are not alone being afraid.
   

I read a really good article here from the John Hopkins Article on Anxiety and Depression from John Hopkins 

Here is somethings I learned just this past month or maybe I always knew it and did not choose to use it because to be afraid served me in some way. 

1. Do not tackle all of your fears at once.
2. Deal with them one at a time. 
3. The best solution is to break your fears or problems into a series of smaller stepsCompleting these smaller tasks one at a time will make the stress more manageable and increases your chances of success by building confidence in yourself. 

Do not give up. Managing your fears takes practice. If it doesn’t work the first time around then try again. Remember that practice makes perfect.Learn how to manage your negative thoughts that may be difficult to manage. When experiencing a negative thought, read some positive statements and affirmations that help lift your spirits and make you feel better. A lot of our fears are based on our negative thoughts.Take it one day at a time. Each day can provide us with different opportunities to learn new things and that includes learning how to deal with your problems. Focus on the present and stop trying to predict what may happen next week. Next week will take care of itself.

Managing your fears and anxieties will take some hard work. Trying to avoid you problems will do nothing in getting rid of your fears and anxieties. Sooner or later, you will have to confront your fears and anxieties. Patience, persistence, education, and being committed in trying to solve your problem will go along way in fixing your problems.  Tell yourself you deserve your dreams. When you think you can't go on have a affirmation ready for times like this and use your affirmation like a montra.  

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DEALING WITH OTHERS.

In all application of magnetism to persons, you are urged to remember that your very first goal, always and preeminently, is an agreeable feeling within their minds. You should never try to induce a person to act your way until you have thoroughly established in him a good feeling toward yourself. This is the prime initial step. When such a condition has been secured, you are then ready for the magnetic assault and then only. When you are dealing with other people, endeavoring magnetically to win them to your wish, you should summon the general magnetic feeling within yourself, will them to do as you desire, and at the same time think of them as already consenting and acting. Your inner condition should be perfectly calm, buoyant, hopeful, whatever the external means employed, your mind should be concentrated upon the thing desired, and its accomplishment should be thought of as now secured. The response of the person may be delayed, but this should not discourage you, for some minds do not take suggestions (those of your unspoken will are referred to) quickly, and they do not act instantly upon their own thought. It is invariably best to induce people to believe that they are acting on their personal impulse or judgment; they should be made to feel perfectly free, not at all coerced, and that they are doing their own will rather than yours simply because they wish so to do. We may summarize all these suggestions in the words of a distinguished scientific writer: "Life is not a bully who swaggers out into the open universe, upsetting the laws of energy in all directions, but rather a consummate strategist, who, sitting in his secret chamber over his wires, directs the movements of a great army." This is a good description of magnetism. The success-magnetism assumption: We are now ready for the great assumption-principle of magnetism in applied life. Think of every goal as already reached, of every undertaking as already achieved.

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