You Can Not Hide Or Runaway From Your Fears And Anxieties, Getting to Know me and facing all of me

“Facing your fears robs them of their power” ~ Mark Burnett 

I never knew a human that did not have fears so feel like you are one of the crowd if you have fears. Lately I had to face a lot of fears.  Do you know what, once exposed they lost their power. How did they get exposed.  Well, for many years I was a counselor and I told the women in my groups to look for their fears and look at their origins.  Well, just lately I had several occasions, where I felt really angry because people were getting into my business. I got really angry and even cut off some of my loved ones for getting into my business.  Now my family had this saying, "To tell people your business is like taking your pants down in church."  I never even thought about or the connection. But whenever I had to tell people personal stuff I would become fearful and anxious. I know why the family did not want our business on the street, but that is irrelevant.  I am just very grateful that I now can see them and know they are there, but to be able to make a decision that the fears do not have to rule my life and keep me from my dreams.

 

Sooner or later, you will have to face your fears and anxieties regardless of how difficult they may be.  Through these experiences, there is one thing that I learned. You can’t hide or runaway from your fears. Taking drugs, drinking, or other methods will not take away your problems and fears.  Since alcohol is a depressant it intensifies negative thinking and causes more fear. So what can I do?So what do you do to make your problems and fears go away? Well, since you can’t runaway from them, then the best solution is to tackle your fears head on no matter how strong they may be. The key is to be smart in how you try to manage these fears. 

1. Write down your fears.  You know what they are so write them down and prioritize them.  Which fears get in your way of doing what you dream and the life you want.

1. Start a fear journal. You can buy a journal some are beautiful. I usually do best with a spiral notebook and then I can have separate journals for separate goals. 

1. Think it through and realize the difference between rationale and irrational fear. If you met a wolf in the street and she had cubs. She snarls and begins to charge you. The fear you feel is normal. Your body is getting itself ready to take itself into flight or fight mode.
2. See a mental health professional, it does not mean your crazy, hundreds of people who live right here in America are afraid of bugs, snakes, anything they don't understand, you are not alone being afraid.
   

I read a really good article here from the John Hopkins Article on Anxiety and Depression from John Hopkins 

Here is somethings I learned just this past month or maybe I always knew it and did not choose to use it because to be afraid served me in some way. 

1. Do not tackle all of your fears at once.
2. Deal with them one at a time. 
3. The best solution is to break your fears or problems into a series of smaller stepsCompleting these smaller tasks one at a time will make the stress more manageable and increases your chances of success by building confidence in yourself. 

Do not give up. Managing your fears takes practice. If it doesn’t work the first time around then try again. Remember that practice makes perfect.Learn how to manage your negative thoughts that may be difficult to manage. When experiencing a negative thought, read some positive statements and affirmations that help lift your spirits and make you feel better. A lot of our fears are based on our negative thoughts.Take it one day at a time. Each day can provide us with different opportunities to learn new things and that includes learning how to deal with your problems. Focus on the present and stop trying to predict what may happen next week. Next week will take care of itself.

Managing your fears and anxieties will take some hard work. Trying to avoid you problems will do nothing in getting rid of your fears and anxieties. Sooner or later, you will have to confront your fears and anxieties. Patience, persistence, education, and being committed in trying to solve your problem will go along way in fixing your problems.  Tell yourself you deserve your dreams. When you think you can't go on have a affirmation ready for times like this and use your affirmation like a montra.  

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DEALING WITH OTHERS.

In all application of magnetism to persons, you are urged to remember that your very first goal, always and preeminently, is an agreeable feeling within their minds. You should never try to induce a person to act your way until you have thoroughly established in him a good feeling toward yourself. This is the prime initial step. When such a condition has been secured, you are then ready for the magnetic assault and then only. When you are dealing with other people, endeavoring magnetically to win them to your wish, you should summon the general magnetic feeling within yourself, will them to do as you desire, and at the same time think of them as already consenting and acting. Your inner condition should be perfectly calm, buoyant, hopeful, whatever the external means employed, your mind should be concentrated upon the thing desired, and its accomplishment should be thought of as now secured. The response of the person may be delayed, but this should not discourage you, for some minds do not take suggestions (those of your unspoken will are referred to) quickly, and they do not act instantly upon their own thought. It is invariably best to induce people to believe that they are acting on their personal impulse or judgment; they should be made to feel perfectly free, not at all coerced, and that they are doing their own will rather than yours simply because they wish so to do. We may summarize all these suggestions in the words of a distinguished scientific writer: "Life is not a bully who swaggers out into the open universe, upsetting the laws of energy in all directions, but rather a consummate strategist, who, sitting in his secret chamber over his wires, directs the movements of a great army." This is a good description of magnetism. The success-magnetism assumption: We are now ready for the great assumption-principle of magnetism in applied life. Think of every goal as already reached, of every undertaking as already achieved.

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